Cüneyt Ülsever - English
Cüneyt Ülsever - English
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Anger is sweeter than honey, is it?

Anger is one of the most difficult feelings that should be controlled by man. It is, however, attractive for one at times.

For this reason, there are people who think anger is sweeter than honey.

Anger surfaces if one believe that his is being treated unfairly. Anger is expressed if one feels that injustice is still there.

But, there is no generalization that everyone who is treated unfairly will get angry.

Those reacting against injustice by getting angry have two things in common:

They usually feel aggrieved as a result of their background. Their analytical abilities are not developed enough. Since they fail to give analytical reactions against unfairness, they get angry.

Angry people are easily provoked by their closest circles. For instance, while you struggle against unfairness, if your wife cries and calls the one you get angry a "liar," your anger grows and you may be pissed off more.

It is also a very populist feeling. All people feeling aggrieved somehow will applaud your anger.

Then toadies around you will be pleased to say "You expressed the feeling of millions." According to such intellectual toadies, the late President Turgut Özal made something stupid by opening the door for peace after having a hand-shake with Papandreou of Greece at Davos in 1989, in a period where the entire Turkish nation were irritated by Greece!

Anger, however, is at the same time a backstabber! It makes one "wrong" even if he is right and forces him to make a U-turn. For instance, if you forget that the nation you accused as "you know nothing but to kill!" is one of the nations that give utmost importance to science, then you have to make a U-turn and claim that you only refer to the rulers of that nation.

Another characteristic of a man in anger is that he gets childish, picks up his toy and murmurs on his way out, "I will never come back here again." But after he gets calm, "We’ll think about it," he says.

Psychiatrists say uncontrollable anger is unhealthy. According to specialists, man who cannot control his anger will harm himself and his circle; so he may need professional help in order to overcome this problem.

But the most important thing is that counterparts of an angry man find him unreliable and do not take him seriously.

Specialists suggest one to control his anger because he may harm his addressee otherwise. Angry men, just like the drunk who yelled at his military commanders in the coup period but said "I cussed the commanders at Patagonia," and then made a U-turn, know very well at whom they should be angry.

For instance, they are not angry at the genocide in Darfur, neither are they angered by Muslim Checnians who raided a school and killed Christian children inside. They are not angry even Turkish soldiers are head-sacked, nor are angry at killing Muslims in Iraq and Afghanistan.

Smart but angry people know whom to be angry with. They try to manage profit and loss account and place anger into the "profit section." As they make short-term calculations, angry men do not calculate who will pay the price in the long run.

If the other party takes it easy, the angry man will be applauded as "Brava! The man taught him his place," but toadies around the angry man fail to see that he was kissing the other just a while ago!
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